UNDERSTANDING EMOTIONAL AND VERBAL ABUSE ….
Firstly, abuse is abuse !!! no matter the form in which it takes.
Abuse comes in many forms, not all of which are physical. When someone repeatedly uses words to demean, frighten, or control someone, it’s considered verbal abuse.
You’re likely to hear about verbal abuse in the context of a romantic relationship or in a parent-child relationship. But it can also occur in other family relationships, socially, or on the job.
Verbal and emotional abuse takes a toll. It can sometimes escalate into physical abuse, too.
If you’re being verbally abused, know that it’s not your fault.
I have been a victim of verbal abuse and I have my scars.
You abuse somebody verbally when you use unimaginable and toxic words to describe them. You abuse somebody verbally when you speak words that undermine and make them feel less of themselves.
You make them consistently doubt themselves and years after years, the words spoken still lingers on in the mind of the person.
While some are lucky enough to deal with the abuse, some are often not so lucky and sometimes the abuse develop overtime such that the words penetrate into them so much that it becomes their reality and sometimes, push them to commit suicide.
Speaking strictly from experience, what verbal abuse does to you is demeans you and make you feel less about yourself and in most cases, you find yourself constantly thinking about the hurtful words that was spoken to you and when you do that consistently for days, you start to live in the reality of the words that were spoken to you.
We all are different and it is okay to be different so also is our emotional intelligence and maturity. Even when you try to go through your day to day activities, each time the thought flashes, the words come hitting you back like a hurricane.
A victim of verbal abuse if not watched closely might hurt himself or hurt others. At a point, I grew so cold that I was virtually ready to do anything to anyone who stepped on my toes. I was unnecessarily hard yet very soft and utterly broken.
I allowed the words spoken to me to take over and to take charge of my life such that I no longer had control of my life.
Verbal abuse damages your self esteem and confidence.
Verbal abuse can lead to depression
Verbal abuse can lead to social withdrawal
Verbal abuse is one of the causes of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
Verbal abuse has been linked to excessive anxiety
Verbal abuse has been linked to Bipolar and some other serious mental health disorders.
If you’re in a place where you are constantly being abused verbally, you have to caution your abuser and If possible, run for dear life.
If you’re in a marriage where your husband or wife constantly abuses you verbally, please talk about it and make your partner understand the damage he or she keeps doing to you.
Notwithstanding where you find yourself, wherever you are being constantly subjected to verbal abuse, please use the exit and clear your head because not everyone is lucky enough to survive the gross effect of verbal abuse and you might not be lucky .
Take a step
Your health is important
Your sanity is important
Take drastic measures and stop anyone from verbally abusing you.
IF IT MEANS RUN,RUN!!!
